This is one of the many times where peoples misunderstandings of context, history and culture, distort the word of God.
During war, brutal acts are levied upon each opposing side by their oppressors or perceived oppressors. In modern times, we blast rock music, drop bombs and utilize cyber attacks. In the past, and sometimes, sadly, in the present, rape is utilized as a method of degrading, humiliating and overpowering people.
It is inexcusable in war and out of war, and that is what God was referring to.
During the time of the Old Testament, horrible atrocities were committed against people. Some of these actions still occur in war torn countries.In Africa, some believe that by raping a child, male or female, the act will cure them of A.I.D.S. (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/africaandindianocean/southafrica/1362134/South-African-men-rape-babies-as-cure-for-Aids.html)
In 38 A.D., the Roman Governor Flaccus ordered thousands of Jews to be paraded naked through the street, to be raped and to be beaten and burned in bonfires. Yes, raped; Jewish men and women, ordered to be raped. (Brief Histories of Almost Anything: 50 Savvy Slices of our Global Past edited by Chris Brazier)
This is what the Bible intended by saying for a man to not lie with another man, as if he were a woman. God was saying “Do not Rape!”.
In Genesis 19:4-11. The men at the door are not there for a tea party. They want to rape the Angels, and Lot, instead offers up his daughters to be raped, instead. It is because, at that time, women, were viewed as “things”, “possessions”. It had little to nothing, to do with sexuality but to do with the value placed upon different genders.
A daughter required a dowry, a daughter brought debt while a son, a male, brought value. A Dowry is the money or goods a woman brings to a marriage. Lot would have had to pay for his daughters to marry.
This is not just a story about rape, but bad parenting as well. What father could offer up his daughters to strangers, to rape, and instead protect male visitors. If the President of the United States visits your home, and some anti-President radicals are banging at your door, demanding that you surrender him so that they can rape him – would you offer up your daughters?
No matter what you think of the President, no human deserves to be raped, ever. It is a disgusting, evil, vile act and God agreed!
You can also see, that even though Lot had a very screwed up sense of value, God still loved him!
In Leviticus 20:13 it says “If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable.They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.”
This does not say “If one man, falls in love with another man – kill him!”. The Bible is VERY clear about love, lust and everything in between. You will also notice that Leviticus admonishes about incest and bestiality. It says “Do not rape anyone, do not have sex with kin willingly or unwillingly and do not have sex with animals.”. All of these things in modern times will result in legal punishment, potentially even a death sentence.(http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2012/06/convicted-south-la-murderer-gets-death-sentence-.html)
Does God hate homosexuals? NO! God loves all of His children, equally. We, His children, do not love equally and that is part and parcel of our sinful nature.
Please Father help me to be a good, loving Christian. Help me to not judge others by my own fears, hurts, sins and past trauma. Help me to be one with Your world, and Your people. Help me Father, to be a loving child like your Son, who welcomed and loved all people from the leper to the lord. I want to be a symbol of Your love, Lord. I am not You, and it is not my place to judge – Please remind me of this and make me an example of Your unconditional positive regard. Amen.